Why Less is Sometimes More: Handling Your Puppy with Care from Day One

When families bring their new puppy home, there’s often an overwhelming sense of excitement – and rightly so! That fluffy little bundle of joy is finally here. The first instinct for most people, especially kids and visitors, is to scoop them up for cuddles, coo over their face, and get right in there with lots of love.

This photo was entitled "best friends" but do you turn away from your bestie when they want to cuddle you? Look at that paw, holding tight, the unnatural sitting position, and where her hand is placed to "support" the dog! The human may be smiling, but the dog is not enjoying the interaction

But here’s the thing…

If we could see the world from our puppy’s point of view, we might realise it’s not quite as heartwarming as we think.

Imagine this…

You’re relaxing at home, taking in the world at your own pace, when suddenly – you’re plucked from the ground by a GIANT, with no warning, no choice, and absolutely no idea what’s coming next. You’re then held tightly to a chest you don’t recognise, while enormous hands stroke your face, ruffle your ears, and wave around your head like you’re made of magic.

And just when you think you might be set down… surprise! You’re passed to someone else and the whole thing starts again.

For many puppies, this feels less like affection and more like being strapped to the world’s tallest rollercoaster – without a seatbelt.

Puppies need space to build trust

Many people don’t realise how frightening our human behaviour can be for a young pup – especially when they’re brand new to your home and still figuring out what the world smells, sounds, and feels like.

Those outstretched arms coming in for a cuddle might remind us of affection – but to a puppy, it’s a bit like a swooping eagle!

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Trainer Tip: Watch your puppy’s body language

If your pup ducks their head, licks their lips, yawns, or turns away when someone reaches in – they’re politely saying “no thank you.” Listen to that. They’re not being “shy” or “grumpy” – they’re trying to feel safe.

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Let them come to you

Let your puppy choose when to interact. Sit on the floor and wait. Let them sniff, explore, and engage in their own time. Use calm, gentle hands. Move slowly. Keep handling sessions short and full of rewards.

And when lifting is necessary – like carrying your pup down the stairs or into the car – always let them know what’s coming. Place one hand under their chest and the other under their back end, hold them close to your body for support, and keep your movements steady and calm.

Our Ridgeback, Inca, cozily nestles on my shoulder, finding the perfect spot for a nap. - her choice!

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Trainer Tip: Not just for puppies!

Older dogs being rehomed or adopted also benefit from this thoughtful, respectful approach. No matter their age, every dog deserves to feel safe in our hands.

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A better start begins with consent

This isn’t about never cuddling your puppy – it’s about giving them choice, and helping them associate human hands with comfort, not confusion. From the very first day, you’re laying the foundations for trust, resilience, and confidence.

Supporting Puppies and Their People

I’ve had the privilege of raising many puppies over the years, as well as helping rehomed dogs settle into family life. Every pup is different, and so is every household. That’s why I work closely with each family as an individual unit, offering tailored support and guidance to help you and your puppy build a bond based on trust, understanding, and respect – a bond that will last a lifetime.

Need my help?

Download my free Preparing for Your Puppy eBook

https://www.avrilyoungdogtraining.com/product-page/preparing-for-your-new-puppy – it’s packed with simple, practical advice to set your pup up for success from day one.

And if your puppy is arriving soon – or already home – my 121 Puppy Foundation Course is open for bookings from July 2025 help@avrilyoungdogtraining.com to discuss how I can help you on your journey].